Written on the Hands of God

Ps Adrian2025-06-29
Message Summary

What do you do when life makes you feel forgotten — by people, by circumstances, or even by God? In this message, Ps Adrian takes us to one of the most tender promises in all of Scripture: that God has engraved us on the palms of His hands. Drawing from Isaiah 49 and the nail-scarred hands of the risen Jesus in John 20, this sermon is a powerful reminder that you are not an afterthought — you are permanently written on the hands of the God who loves you. If you've ever wrestled with doubt, felt unseen, or wondered whether God really notices your life, this message is for you.

Discussion Guide

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Youth6 questions

It's easy to feel invisible — like your struggles, your doubts, and even your existence don't really register with anyone, including God. This passage smashes that lie wide open. Isaiah 49 and John 20 together show us that God doesn't just know your name — he has permanently carved it into himself, and the scars on Jesus' hands are the proof. For teenagers navigating identity, comparison, and the pressure to perform, this truth is foundational: your worth isn't earned. It's engraved.

  1. Have you ever felt like God wasn't paying attention to what you were going through? What did that feel like?
  2. Isaiah 49:15 compares God's love to a mum's love for a newborn baby — and says God's love is even stronger. What does that comparison mean to you personally?
  3. Thomas told Jesus' friends he wouldn't believe unless he could physically see the evidence. Do you think it's okay to doubt? Why or why not?
  4. When Jesus showed Thomas his scars, Thomas called him 'My Lord and my God.' What do you think changed for Thomas in that moment?
  5. If you genuinely believed God had your name engraved on his hands — like, really believed it — how might that change the way you see yourself at school or with your friends?
  6. What's one lie about your identity that you've been believing lately, and what does this sermon say about it?
Young Adults6 questions

The twenties and thirties can be a disorienting decade — careers that don't go to plan, relationships that are complicated, and a quiet pressure to have it all figured out. It's in exactly that kind of season that the creeping thought arrives: *maybe God has moved on without me.* Isaiah 49 and John 20 speak directly into that uncertainty. God's commitment to you isn't conditional on your stage of life or your level of success — you are engraved, not pencilled in. And Thomas's story reminds us that bringing honest doubt to Jesus is not a detour away from faith; it's often the very path into it.

  1. In what area of your life right now do you most feel like you're waiting for something to be 'rebuilt'? How does Isaiah 49:16-18 speak to that?
  2. Thomas is often labelled 'Doubting Thomas' — but do you think that label is fair? What do you admire about the way he handled his doubt?
  3. Have you ever felt like God was distant or uninvolved during a particularly hard season? Looking back, can you see any evidence that he was actually present?
  4. The sermon describes being 'engraved' as permanent and costly — not written in pencil. How does that image challenge the way you think about your relationship with God?
  5. How do you tend to respond when faith and doubt collide — do you suppress the doubt, walk away, or bring it to God? What would it look like to be more like Thomas?
  6. What's one practical way you could anchor yourself in the truth of Isaiah 49 during a week when life feels overwhelming or invisible?
Families6 questions

Parenting is one of the great privileges and pressures of life — and it can also be one of the places where we most acutely feel inadequate. Isaiah 49 uses the image of a mother nursing her child to point to God's unfailing love, and in doing so, it reminds us that the love we pour into our families is a reflection of something much deeper. This sermon is an invitation for families to talk together about what it means to be truly known and never forgotten — by God and by each other.

  1. Isaiah 49:15 uses the image of a mum and newborn to describe God's love. How has becoming a parent (or being parented) helped you understand God's love differently?
  2. Are there ways your family life sometimes makes it hard to feel close to God? What tends to crowd that space out?
  3. How do you create space in your home for your kids to ask honest questions about faith — including the hard ones, like Thomas asked?
  4. The passage talks about walls being rebuilt and children being gathered back. Is there a relationship in your family that needs restoration? What would a first step look like?
  5. How do you want your children to understand their identity — not based on performance or achievement, but on being known and loved by God?
  6. As a family, what's one thing you could do this week to remind each other that you are seen, known, and valued — both by God and by one another?
Singles6 questions

Singleness can sometimes feel like a waiting room — a season defined more by what it isn't than what it is. And in that space, the question 'am I forgotten?' can carry particular weight. Isaiah 49's promise that God has engraved you on his hands is not a promise made to couples or families — it's a promise made to *you*, exactly as you are, exactly where you are. This sermon is a reminder that being unmarried doesn't mean being unknown. You are fully seen, fully held, and fully written on the hands of God.

  1. Have you ever experienced the specific loneliness of feeling unseen in a world that often centres couplehood and family? How did you process that?
  2. Isaiah 49:18 describes restoration with the image of a bride adorning herself — a picture of joy and readiness. How do you hold onto hope for the future without putting your life on pause in the present?
  3. Thomas needed tangible, personal evidence before he could believe. Is there an area of your faith where you need God to 'show you his hands' — something you're still waiting to see?
  4. The sermon talks about living *from* the truth of being remembered, rather than just *believing* it in theory. What's the difference, and which do you find harder?
  5. Community is one of the ways God makes his 'remembering' tangible. Who in your life consistently reminds you that you're seen and valued?
  6. What would it look like for you to live more fully in the present season, grounded in the truth that you are already engraved on God's hands — not waiting to matter?
Men6 questions

Men are often conditioned to project strength and certainty — to have answers, to hold things together. But Thomas in John 20 models something quietly countercultural: he named his doubt honestly, and it led him to one of the most profound encounters with Jesus in the entire Gospel record. This sermon is a challenge to men to lead not from performance or pretence, but from the secure identity that comes from knowing you are written on the hands of God — permanently, at great cost, and without condition.

  1. Be honest: is it easy or hard for you to admit doubt — about faith, about yourself, about God? What makes it hard?
  2. Thomas is often seen as a negative example, but the sermon reframes him positively. Do you think men in the church are given enough permission to doubt and question? Why or why not?
  3. God's love in Isaiah 49 is described as more steadfast than even a mother's love for her child. How does that kind of unconditional love challenge the way you tend to *earn* your sense of worth?
  4. The sermon says the scars on Jesus' hands are the permanent record of how far God went to ensure you'd never be forgotten. How does that truth change the way you approach God when you've failed or fallen short?
  5. Are there 'walls' in your life — relationships, responsibilities, goals — that feel like rubble right now? What does it mean to trust that God's eyes haven't left those blueprints?
  6. What would it practically look like for you to lead in your home, workplace, or friendships from a place of secure identity rather than performance anxiety?
Women6 questions

The image at the heart of Isaiah 49 is striking in its tenderness: God, reaching for the language of a nursing mother to describe the depth of his love. This is God saying that the most instinctive, self-giving love we know in human experience is just a shadow of what he feels for us. For women who pour themselves out in care — for families, for friends, for communities — this sermon is an invitation to receive the very love they so often give. You are not forgotten. You are engraved.

  1. The comparison in Isaiah 49:15 is deeply personal — a mother nursing her baby. What does that image stir in you, and why do you think God chose it?
  2. Women often carry significant invisible labour — emotional, relational, domestic. Do you ever struggle to feel *seen* for that work, by people or by God? How does this passage speak to that?
  3. Is there an area of your life right now that feels like 'rubble' — a relationship, a dream, a season — where you need to hear that God's eyes are still on the walls? What would it mean to lift your eyes, as verse 18 says?
  4. Thomas brought his raw, unfiltered doubt directly to Jesus — and it led to transformation. How do you tend to handle doubt: do you bring it to God, or does it stay hidden?
  5. The sermon describes the scars on Jesus' hands as the proof of God's permanent commitment to us. How does that image sit with your own scars — the painful seasons you carry?
  6. Who is a woman in your life who reflects this kind of faithful, engraving love to others? How could you honour and encourage her this week?
Connect Together6 questions

A lifetime of faith brings rich blessing — and also seasons where the question 'has God forgotten me?' cuts deepest. The loss of a spouse, the silence of unanswered prayer, the watching of a world that seems to be changing faster than you can track. Isaiah 49 was written for a people who had lived through exactly that kind of long, disorienting wait — and God's answer was not a quick fix but an unshakeable promise: *I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.* For those who have walked with God for decades, this sermon is both a confirmation of what you already know and a fresh invitation to rest in it.

  1. Looking back over your life of faith, can you identify a season where you genuinely wondered if God had forgotten you? What did you hold onto during that time?
  2. The word 'engraved' in Isaiah 49:16 implies permanence and cost. How has your understanding of God's faithfulness deepened — or been tested — over the years?
  3. God says in verse 18, 'As surely as I live' — speaking on oath about restoration and gathering. Have you witnessed that kind of restoration in your own life or family? What did it look like?
  4. Thomas's honest doubt led to one of the greatest declarations of faith in Scripture. What role has honest wrestling with God played in your own spiritual journey?
  5. The sermon connects Isaiah 49 with the nail marks in Jesus' hands in John 20. How does the cross serve as the ultimate anchor for you personally — especially in the hard seasons?
  6. What is the most important thing you've learned about being held by God that you want to pass on to the next generation?
New to Church?

Welcome — we're so glad you're here. Today's message is built around a simple but powerful idea: that you matter deeply to God, and that he has not forgotten you. We'll be looking at a passage from the Old Testament book of Isaiah, where God uses the image of a parent's love for a newborn child to describe how he feels about the people he loves — and then at a moment from the life of Jesus, where a grieving, doubting follower named Thomas comes face to face with the risen Christ. Whether you've grown up in church or this is your very first time stepping through the door, this message is for you. There's no prior knowledge needed, no insider language to decode — just an honest, warm conversation about what it means to be truly, permanently known and loved. We hope you feel at home.

Related Verses

Isaiah 49:14-16

But Zion said, 'The LORD has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me.' 'Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.' (NIV)

Isaiah 49:18

Lift up your eyes and look around; all your children gather and come to you. As surely as I live, declares the LORD, you will wear them all as ornaments; you will put them on, like a bride adorning herself. (NIV)

John 20:27

Then he said to Thomas, 'Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.' (NIV)

John 20:28

Thomas said to him, 'My Lord and my God!' (NIV)

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